Moochers

This one is dedicated to one of my biggest pet peeves... moochers. We all know one or two or ten of them. Those people that refuse to do for themselves and expect everything in life to be handed to them.



I read a post a few days ago from one of these people with this lifestyle to the effect of "there's no food in this god forsaken house" and it boiled my blood. (This person will remain nameless, but I'm sure several people will know who I'm talking about anyway.) Here's some details:


1. This person is 20 years old and has never attempted to move out of his parents' house.
2. This person does not attend college and has never even sent in an application to get a higher education.
3. This person doesn't seem to be able to hold a job for more than a few months. It's always because it was too hard, or management didn't like him, or some other excuse.
4. This person has had both cars he's had pretty much handed to him and has pretty much torn both of them up. The one he currently has has his grandparents' names on it and refuses to treat the car with any respect. There were terms and conditions that came along with the car which he has completely ignored such has not modifying the car, not racing in the car, and to follow the law with the car. Because he has ignored every limitation set for him, he now hides out from his grandfather.
5. This person only sees or talks to family members when he wants something. He can't be bothered any other time. It really got me mad when those storms came through a couple of weeks ago and his 70 year old grandmother was darn near stuck in her house because of all of the trees down and he "couldn't" find the time to drive 5 minutes and go over to her house to help her clean up.
6. This person refuses to take responsibility for his actions and blames his "rotten life" on literally everyone else. Especially with his recent underage DUI - he blamed the guy that called the cops on him. He eventually lost his job over it since he was working at a jail - another thing that had been handed to him... by his uncle.
7. This person begs and begs for gas money, but has blown his entire check on parts for his car - that didn't need repaired in the first place - he just decides he doesn't like it anymore or wants something different.
8. This person does not learn from his mistakes... at all.
9. Total bills include car payment, car insurance, and cell phone.


Those are just examples. If I kept going, I would be writing for weeks.




Now... by the time I had graduated high school and turned 18 through my entire year of being 20, I had done the following:


1. Moved out of my parents' house. (I did move back in with them for about a month and a half to two months after a bad relationship ended while I was saving money to get another place.)
2. Purchased 2 vehicles ON MY OWN.
3. Rented 2 different apartments.
4. Went to college full time (for most of this time) AND went to work full time at the same time.
5. Held the same job from 18 to right after I had turned 20. Had another job for about 7-8 months until the place closed down. Started another job immediately after and STILL work with this company 3.5 years later.
6. I try to stay in touch with my family as much as possible.
7. I don't have a "rotten life" because I have WORKED for everything that I have so I respect my life.
8. Yes, money is tight, but I also take care of 2 kids and make sure they have everything they need. At this point, NONE of my pants fit me anymore because of the weight loss. I do have capris that fit me, thanks to a friend that is also on a weight loss journey and they were too big for her, so I have not been to the store yet to get me pants that FIT me yet. But as long as the kids need things, then I will put off getting what I need.
9. I had met Brian who would become my husband a few years later.




I don't see how this person can life his life like this and actually think he has it good. I work for what I have and I get a feeling of confidence and accomplishment from it, which I happen to love.


Back to the original post. "There's no food in this god forsaken house." I really wish someone would knock some sense into this kid! Get up off your lazy butt and go get some food! You don't pay rent. You don't pay any bills except your car payment, cell phone, and car insurance. You show ZERO respect to anyone in the house to begin with. GO TO THE STORE AND PUT SOME FOOD IN THE HOUSE! EARN YOUR STAY THERE INSTEAD OF MOOCHING OFF OF EVERYONE ELSE!! QUIT TAKING ADVANTAGE OF EVERYONE AROUND YOU!! QUIT MANIPULATING EVERYONE INTO FEELING SORRY FOR YOU!! YOU HAVE DONE THIS TO YOURSELF!!


But, instead of just placing the blame on this guy entirely, I have to look at his upbringing. He was raised with everything in life handed to him. If he wanted something, he found a way to get it via someone else. So he's always been able to manipulate people's feelings and has very rarely been called on it. Well guess what? I'M CALLING HIM ON IT!


This person and I no longer communicate because of how he acts. Hopefully, he'll grow up and mature some in the near future, but I highly doubt that seeing as his life is working "well" for him at the moment. But, there is going to come a time where something serious happens and he is going to have burnt so many bridges that there is going to be absolutely no one to turn to. And when that happens, he's going to, again, blame everyone else in his "rotten life" when in fact, he should be blaming himself.